disclaimer: this is a LONG post.. but read the quote from Elder Holland at least 🙂
 i realize i havent gone private yet like i said i was going to..
i still dont know if i will.
since a few days ago when i posted about that rude twit, i’ve gotten over 100 encouraging messages and a part of one of my favorites was this: (i hope he doesnt mind im sharing this)
“…it’s amazing to me how many people hate on tebow. he’s just trying to lead his team and be a force for good in the world. haters are usually just jealous cynics, too scared, lazy, or negative to accomplish their own dreams, so they take their bitterness out on people who are still passionate about life. don’t listen to them, just do you. i truly believe from my own experience that life rewards those who have faith in their heart’s desires and follow them with conviction….”

“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people. “
 – Eleanor Roosevelt

i realize more and more that we cannot worry about what other people think of us or what other people say about us. generally when people are rude to you or talk behind your back it has nothing to do with you. it is an issue they have. insecurities, feeling inferior, intimidated, or maybe you are just an outlet or the unlucky 3rd party for the individual to take out their anger coming from somewhere else.

in a thought catalog article.. someone wrote about the difference between loving and hating.
loving takes effort. when you love someone you are nice to them, you look out for them, you are happy for their achievements, etc. all of that takes great effort.
hating is easy. hating takes no effort. so more often than not, people take the easy route. they choose to hate because loving someone or caring about someone is just too hard for them. 

my fav’s from the article:
“Hate can be comfortable for the hater but painful for the hated. Love can be painful for the lover and comfortable for the loved. It’s our charge as selfish humans to enjoy hate and ignore love. To focus on our comfort and other’s pain. “

There is so much hate in the world, and it is so available that one could just reach out, as if into thin air, and grasp a bundle of hate and eat it. There is a lot of love as well, sure, but most of the time, it’s not so easy to just reach out and grab – and for that reason people tend to lean towards hate. They tend not to stretch their tired arm so far, not to rise from their comfortable seated position, not even to think twice about it. They just settle for hate. To get to love, one must pass hate. Most people, in their weak and sedated state, just stop at hate. It’s closer.”

see? haters are lazy. haters don’t wake up in the morning and tell themselves, “i want to make a difference today. i want to be a positive influence in the world. i want to make others happy.”
that is just too dang hard for them.

if you didnt read anything above at least read this:
(since its sunday)
i feel like i always get in ruts as far as scripture study goes. especially now that i am back in school.. its like at the end of a day i just dont feel like reading. 
thats why i always like a challenge for extra motivation. i recently got a challenge to read 6 pages of the Book of Mormon a day. i did that and it was harder than i thought. i would miss days and end up having to do catch up days and read like 24 pages.. ahh it was bad. but what i realized was this:
i gained such a stronger testimony of the Book of Mormon. just reading a few verses or a page is great and obviously better than nothing. really, anything is so awesome. but since i was reading 6 pages i was reading FULL stories and they were so fascinating to me. i wondered why i never got so much out of my scripture study before and i realized i was reading, starting a story, and then i was done. 
before i started the challenge i also started studying the people in the book and making flash cards and so when i read about the people i had studied, it was so much more exciting because i felt like i knew them. i just love every word. its so amazing to me and i cant really put it in words.

i finished that challenge and was kinda burnt out on scripture study. i didnt read for like a week and immediately felt a difference in my life. so, i asked my stake president if he had any recommendations for what i should do next. he said i should start reading D&C and told me about what he does for his study.. he does this:
-reads from the scriptures for x amount of time
-then reads a conference talk
-then reads an article from a magazine (ensign, new era, friend, etc)

i started doing this and although it does take a long time, it is so wonderful because you get the ancient scripture, modern day revelation, and then stories from people all over the world. (the article in the new era right now on mighty prayer is amazzzing click here to read it)
p.s. im so not trying to “boast” or whatever.. i totally miss days occasionally or get lazy about this but i love hearing what works for other people… so thats why im sharing

last night i had finished the scripture part and was going to read the talk. i randomly clicked on a year of conference and found a talk given by Jeffrey R. Holland… it was absolutely perfect and JUST what i needed to hear with the things i have been dealing with lately.. my favorite quote was this:

“You can’t live your life worrying that the world is staring at you. When you let people’s opinions make you self-conscious you give away your power. … The key to feeling [confident] is to always listen to your inner self—[the real you.]”  And in the kingdom of God, the real you is “more precious than rubies.” 


i know it is probably lame to be like bearing my testimony and sharing these personal things over such a public forum… but its sunday and i think we should take advantage of the blessings that can come from the internet.. aka sharing spiritual messages and testimonies. 

thats all i wanted to say.
just remember you are more precious than rubies.
have a good sunday!!

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  1. So… I am not a creepy stalker haha I know it may seem like it since I am commenting on a post you wrote clear back 2011 but I was searching your blog for a sweater you wore “hi hater” and this post came up and can I just say THANK YOU. I really needed to read that talk from Elder Holland, I don’t think it is silly for you to bear your testimony on a public forum. You are such a strong woman and are an amazing example to many, take your own advice and do you.

    XO JNESS

  2. you are so wonderful and inspiring. i am so grateful we are family and roommates. you never cease to amaze me 🙂

  3. jaclyn- i know its so so hard! especially when youre tired! but try this for a week every night and just see how you like it! i just pick out a talk with a title that looks like its something i would need to hear that day and it always is so amazing that it motivates you to want to do it the other nights.. if that makes sense!

    moose- i love you. for reals. youre an amazing friend 🙂 i loved seeing you tonight!! 🙂

  4. I loved this post. I find it so hard to find time for scripture study, its always just a few verses. Thanks for sharing what works for you and the awesome quotes!

  5. Thank you! As a young single adult in the LDS church I can honestly say that it is extremely frustrating that women don’t understand their own worth. And when they don’t understand it, they don’t demand the respect they deserve from men, and they don’t treat others the way they should.

    Great Blog!

  6. Don’t ever think it’s “lame” to share your testimony in any place, forum, or time. And how about a reference for the Elder Holland quote? What talk was it in?