How to Find Your Happy Place
BY LUCI WORMELL
People look at my Instagram account and question my mental health. I’ve received multiple messages alongside of, “How could you possibly be depressed? You seem happy.” I chuckled a bit not out of disrespect but because I’ve come a long way. The smiling face that you see in my posts is a genuine smile that I have not had for years. Depression have robbed me of it. That takes me to my next point: the reason why I only have “happy” pictures is because for someone struggling with depression, these happy days are so rare. I want to highlight them so that I can go back and remember, “hey, remember that one time you were so happy?”
I believe I have enough balance on my profile: the good, the bad, the ugly, the honest, and the raw. I want my followers to be impacted in a positive way so I try as much as possible to be light and cheerful — but I also add that nitty gritty stuff in my captions. If you really read them, you’ll know that my life is not perfect. I don’t ever expect it to be. But there are those days when I feel like I’m suffocating. I am trapped within my emotions. Breathing is difficult. My vision is unclear. Suddenly, life is meaningless. That’s when I go to my happy place.
Questions to Ask Yourself
Each one of us will have a different happy place. How do we find it? Ask yourself these questions:
1. Where is the one place that makes me feel light weighted, worried-free, and alive?
2. Where is the one place that makes me feel like my problems are minimal and only temporary?
3. Where is the one place that gives me positive affirmations?
4. Where is the one place that I can completely and fully be myself without any judgement, criticism, and negativity?
5. Where is the one place that makes me smile from ear to ear without any reason at all?
6. Where is the one place that reminds me, life is so dang beautiful and it’s great to be alive?
Your happy place is the place where you feel like you’re in heaven. It’s peaceful. It makes you appreciate everything that you currently have in life. It makes you remember your struggles are only minimal and temporary. Your happy place could be your bedroom, your office, the park, the museum, an ice-cream shop, or in my case, it’s the beach.
At the beach, I feel more at peace with myself. All of my burdens are lifted away. I feel ten times lighter. All of my anger turns into appreciation for what I do have. For some people, it might sound crazy to drive 6 hours, so I could be at my happy place. For me, I get excited, happy, and overjoyed. The feeling that I get when I am looking out at the ocean is indescribable. For the first time in a really long time, I’m able to breathe again. I don’t get to go to my happy place as often as I’d like – so when I can, I take full advantage of it.
If you ever feel like you are suffocating, go to your happy place. It doesn’t have to be 6 hours away; it could simply be a walk around the neighborhood or a bike ride to the park. You’re the only one that knows where your happy place is. Remember, this is your place — it’s where you not only feel happy but also safe.
Don’t let mental health win. It wants you to think you don’t have control sometimes, but you fully do. Recognize it and take care of it. You have more power than you think.
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