My Experience With Pregnancy Blues
I asked you guys on insta what you wanted to hear more about on here and overwhelmingly the response was more on pregnancy blues! So I hope this doesn’t come across like I am being super negative, I know I have already mentioned it on here before and I usually try to keep the mood on here really uplifting.. But the whole reason I wanted to bring it up in the first place was just that I felt sooo weird posting and portraying me as my normal self when I felt nothing like my normal self (well often I did I guess and those are the parts you were seeing on insta stories or insta, it came and went). So I guess I just wanted to keep it real with both myself and you guys. And as a side note: I am SO excited to be pregnant!!!!!!! I guess that is why the blues can be so confusing too.
I never had pregnancy blues or postpartum depression or anxiety with either Atticus or Rosie so honestly this was/is all really new to me and I guess that is why it was making me so uncomfortable. I also had heard of the term “pregnancy blues” but have never personally read anyone’s experience so I wasn’t even sure what was going on with me at first. Also I am not sure how true this is but multiple articles I read said that 20% of pregnant women experience this which I thought was so interesting because that is a lot of people! So hopefully this will make someone who is feeling the same things feel a little better? Also there IS an end to this – I am feeling like I am out of it now – so I hope it stays that way! I am not sure if it is just that I am getting further along in my pregnancy and my hormones are leveling out or what – but I am not going to question it ha ha.
A lot of you asked what is was like for me so this is the best I can explain it! I can’t remember when I started feeling it but it was a total lack of energy – not just in the day to day but even felt no energy to feel emotion. It felt exhausting to have conversations where I am giving them a lot of energy and emotion and I just feel so tired. For a couple weeks I also kept having this weird thing that happened about 3 or 4 times a week where it is like a wave is coming and I could feel it coming because my heart started to race and I could feel something chemically happening in my body, like my countenance, mood, everything was changing and suddenly I started crying and just couldn’t stop crying and I would have to go lay down for like… I don’t know 5-15 minutes because I couldn’t do anything. I have no idea what this is and I feel stupid even saying this on such a public forum because I realize this is such a personal thing, but again I feel like I have always been personal on here and so for me it feels more weird to not talk about this. I have never had this before so I was just feeling so confused and trapped. Normally I would have a bad day or be feeling negative and I can give myself a quick pep talk and turn it around. Never have I had something like that where it felt like I have no control whatsoever. Even when I had what I think is depression in junior high and high school, I think a lot of that was different because for me it was situational and not something that I was going to have my whole life. But again like I said I woke up one morning feeling totally myself again and didn’t want to be too hopeful because I felt like it was probably just a good day but I haven’t felt any of those overpowering emotions since so I am hoping my body is figuring its issues out ha! Crossing my fingers.
P.S. If you feel like sharing your experience in the comments for other women going through the same thing then feel free to share!! I am sure it would be very appreciated.
Things I did to help day to day when I was really feeling it all were these:
1. Take B-12 Vitamins : A lot of you on my DM’s or emails recommended this and I am so sorry if I didn’t have time to respond but I did read them all and went and got some and honestly I felt like this helped me soo much. So THANK YOU to everyone who gave this recommendation.
2. Drink Lots of Water & TRY to Cut Out Sugar : Again ughhhh I am so bad at cutting sugar haha but I did cut back a ton!!! And I have been drinking lots of water.
3. Give Myself Time to Just Feel Whatever I am Feeling : I hate the feeling of being sad for no reason and then on top of that feeling guilty for feeling sad for no reason. I just wanted to be sad on the days I felt sad and that really helped. Because I think when you’re not trying to NOT feel something – you actually come out of it faster – at least for me!
4. Social Media Breaks : I tried not to post to give myself a break from taking pics and it was really really good.
5. Quality time with the kids : Ah this probably helped the most of anything. Just being with them and being as silly as possible 🙂 kids sure can turn your mood around quick.
I hope anyone who is also feeling pregnancy blues gets to feeling better SOON!!!! Sending my love to you guys! Thank you so much for reading and supporting and all of the love I have received in comments, DM’s, emails!
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