*edit to this post! So Atticus is now 18 months and sleeps 13-14 hours through the night and takes a 3-4 hour nap during the day, 11-2/3pm. We did this schedule and slowly he would sleep longer and longer and as he would sleep longer we would make his bedtime earlier! He now goes to bed at 6pm and wakes up 7/8am. He has been such a good sleeper from keeping a consistent schedule.
So first let me start by saying that I am a first time mom so I don’t know what the heck I am doing most of the time and am not doing this post to “give advice” but after I posted that Atticus was sleeping though the night on my personal Instagram, I got a crazy amount of emails asking about the schedule. Since I can’t answer all your emails I am just doing a quick post on it! Let me also say that I know a LOT of moms are anti-schedule… that is fine and your comments, if rude, will be deleted. This is not a forum to bash what other moms are doing because quite frankly once our kids pass the age of two who cares if they were breastfed, formula fed, co-slept, were on a schedule, slept whenever they wanted, etc. none of it matters and no kids are basing their friends off of who was on a schedule and no one is not making the football team because they were formula fed – in the end none of this actually matters. So lets all just do what makes our lives easier and works for us individually and support each other and love our babies and do what is best for them. Okay end rant and here we go.
As an intro.. Atticus started sleeping 8 hours around 9 weeks old and now sleeps 9+ hours. I started doing the schedule when he was 6 weeks so really it only took a few weeks to work although I have friends who it took longer for, obviously every baby is so different. I got the schedule from my amazing friend since birth, Jessalyn. She was a girl born to be a mom and I go to her for all parenting advice because she is just amazing. She did the schedule with her little girl and she has told lots and lots of people about it and it has worked wonders for all of them.. so obviously I was excited to try it with Atticus. She got the schedule, here, so you can read her version and do it exactly like she does but I made some (quite a few) of my own adjustments that work better for us so I will share those. And let me say that he is A MILLION times happier on the schedule. You guys, it is night and day difference.. so insane how much happier he is! Not saying your baby isn’t happy if they aren’t on a schedule, but just for my baby individually, a schedule worked wonders. Plus I get a full nights sleep and feel I can be a better and happier mom when I am rested! So here is our schedule..
8:30am (ish): Wake up, feed while swaddled, change diaper, play.
10:00am: Swaddle and go down for nap.
11:30am: Wake up, feed while swaddled, change diaper, play.
1:00pm: Swaddle and go down for nap.
2:30pm: Wake up, feed while swaddled, change diaper, play.
4:00pm: Swaddle and go down for nap.
5:30pm: Wake up, feed while swaddled, change diaper, play.
7:00pm: Swaddle and go down for nap.
8:30pm: Wake up, feed while swaddled, change diaper, play.
9:30pm: 30 min power nap.
10:00pm: Him and I take a 20 minute bath and breastfeed in the bath. I bathe every night but I only use soap every other night.
10:20pm: Get in PJ’s and relax time. We also make sure to pack him full of food during this time.. I try to get him to eat a full 4 or 5 ounces so he doesn’t get hungry in the middle of the night.
10:40/11:00: He falls asleep eating and we put him down.
Those are rough times but if he had woken up at 9:00am, that day I would start at 9 and he would go down at 10:30… I just do hour and a half increments adjusted to his wake up time. He also is used to the hour and a half increments so he usually wakes up on queue. The power nap, bathing together, and making sure he eats a lot before bed are the key parts to our schedule.. if the entire day the schedule goes haywire, if we do the night routine, he will still sleep though the night.
Okay so now here are the main changes I did to the schedule in that woman’s blog..
-During naps I will have him sleep in his swing, or he will cuddle with me and we will co-sleep for nap time, or I will let him fall asleep on me in the rocker, or on the bed while I answer emails, or in the bassinet – literally whatever I feel like that day.
-I let him fall asleep breastfeeding.
-If I need to go somewhere or get something done I don’t stress if he doesn’t get a full nap or wakes up early, I will just start fresh when he wakes up from the next nap.
-If he is having a rough day, like when he recently got shots and was super sad, I ditch the schedule all together and just let him sleep as much as he wants. He will usually wake up earlier but I will start with the schedule the next day and he usually jumps right back into it and sleeps though the night.
TRAVELING ON THE SCHEDULE…
Travel days on planes or on vacay I still try to stick to the schedule as much as possible but if the schedule keeps getting messed up because I have to take him out of his carseat and wake him up to go through security or have to wake him up at 5am to make a 6:15am flight.. I don’t worry I just try to make sure that day he was asleep and awake for the same amount of time. So if he only had a 30 min nap I will let him sleep longer on his next, etc. .. although I do try to have as few of those lenient days as possible.. they are inevitable though if you are traveling! He still manages to sleep though the night those days though. While we were in NYC he did really well except a couple nights where he would sleep for 7 hours and wake up and I would give him a binky or breastfeed him and he would fall right back to sleep for another 2.5 hours. One night I was really exhausted and just didn’t feel like doing a bath and he WOULD NOT FALL ASLEEP so I had to give him a bath at midnight and then he slept for his eight hours. Bath is so key for him to calm down and get ready for bed so thats something I really cannot skip. It is also kind of our “special time” because he gets really relaxed and cuddly and its just really sweet 🙂
Anyways, so that is our schedule! I love hearing what other moms do and have benefited to so much from other moms giving me bits of what works for them. I am still getting the hang of this mom thing but this has worked really amazingly well for us so I hope maybe it helped some other new mom.
Have a great day and sorry to any girls without babies who found this post completely boring haha I have a new fashion post tomorrow!! xoxo