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Okay so in October of 2010 I was at the gym (24 hour fitness) and I go to get a drink and see a small group of guys. One of them was David obviously… He had a mustache and was wearing these short shorts and red tank and striped, tall-ish socks, he kinda looked like an 80’s work out dude but I thought he was soo dreamy. I loved his mustache and for some reason he just looked cool.. (ya know those people you see who are so confident and have cool style but don’t look like they try hard? Cool is the only word I can think of to describe it) his friends looked cool too.. One of them had a mustache like David and the other had these cool glasses. Anyways… I would see him there for like months it seemed like and we made eye contact all the time but he NEVER came to talk to me. But of course I made sure I went when I knew he’d be there. Still, nada. So then one day I’m on Facebook and I am looking at this random girls pictures for some reason and recognize him in one of the pictures.. I didn’t know his name before that but I knew that was him so I added him. Then, he sent me a message 🙂 holy crap I was so pumped but I tried to be super short and act like I didn’t care. (so stupid how we play those games.. Sometimes we have to)
We didn’t have time to get together because right after that I left for Arizona for 2 months. In Arizona I met someone and started dating him non exclusively. When I came back up to Provo I was still going on dates with other people so when I saw David at the gym he then messaged me and said we should get together. We went out a few times.. Enough where I felt like I got to know him but I wasn’t interested just because I was still dating the Arizona guy and my mind was just shut off to other guys at the time. BUT he did leave me a little note with a daisy on my doorstep one morning and I hung it on my bulletin board and thought that was so sweet.
Fast forward a month, I break things off with Arizona guy and realize “holy crap I want David!!!! Like so bad.” I had learned that he was such a nerd… He loves rocks and star wars and is really smart. He loved working out like I do. He listened to oldies music which I thought was cool. He likes crafts.. He can crochet like no ones business. He is an amazing cook. He is good at all sports. He is a total mountain man (which is super important to me… if a guy couldn’t catch a fish or didn’t like to camp.. he was out). And he was so sweet and funny. What else could you want??? But I soon found out he had gotten a girlfriend… Ugh. From February 2011 to may 2011 I would just gush about him to my friends. My friend tony was in the geology dept at school with him and since tony is one of my best friends I would talk about David ALL the time to him. I would be like, “Tony you don’t understand you have to get him to love me I HAVE to marry him he’s perfect for me” haha seriously, I was pathetic. (but he never actually said anything to David or did anything). Then I started a summer fling and kind of accepted the fact that he was taken.
In August I moved and as me and my cousin were moving in we were going through all my little nothing’s… Notes/receipts/etc and we saw David’s note and she said “okayyy amb it’s time to throw this away” but I wouldn’t let her haha even if I wasn’t going to date him I still wanted to keep that note as some sort of memory or something…. yeah I don’t know but I kept it.
In late September 2012 summer fling guy and I broke things off.. 2 weeks later David contacted me and said we should get together.. I guess him and his gf had also broken up (which I had nothing to do with). So we start dating.
We are dating casually… For 5 months. 5 months! That’s a long time for me to “casually” be dating someone especially someone who after our first night out (second time around) I already wanted to be my boyfriend. Plus I was still going on dates with other guys which was so painful.. I didn’t even want to, I only did to show him that he doesn’t just get me all to himself and that I am still busy.. ya know?? Soo after 5 months I sadly ended things. I sort of told him if we weren’t going to be official and progress then I was out.. And he said goodbye.
I started dating a few guys after that even though I was hung up on David still. After like a month-ish David starts talking to me again. He invited me to go see the Star Wars movie that was in the theaters and I was sooo excited. I get all ready thinking it was a date.. get in the car… pissed. 3 of his guy friends are with us. Someone shoot me. I don’t even like Star Wars. After the movie they were telling me what we were going to do next but instead I pretended I already made plans and had him drop me off. I was seriously soo bummed.
Later that night I go to vent to my friends of course then go over to the guy I had started hanging out with house thinking that would take my mind off it but it didn’t. So I am sitting in my car after driving home and I decided to text David and tell him we couldn’t do this again and that I wasn’t going to just be his little friend to hang out with… and maybe I confessed that I thought that night was going to be a date. From there he said he was going to come over so we could talk. He came over and said he wanted to do this… aka he wanted us to be official and just move forward.
From there…. everything was perfect and kind of progressed at a perfect pace and now we are getting married in 71 days.
Why this matters: girls always think things have to happen in the picture perfect way.. like the guy should be chasing them around even after she turns him down countless times. Well it doesn’t always work out like that and sometimes you’re the one who has feelings before he does. I knew I loved him before he knew that he loved me… and I also knew I wanted to marry him before he knew he wanted to marry me. And I think thats fine. I am not saying to sit around and wait for a guy to come around.. eventually you have to show him that you are better than waiting on your sorry butt for him to commit, but if he does come around