I saw a sign that said “Big Wave Dave” so I have been calling Davey that 😉 My New Year’s resolution was to try to be a better wife. I am constantly thinking about ways I can be a better mom and focusing on the kids that I forget to think about ways to be a better wife. So that was one of my resolutions this year. My other is just to manage my stress and do things to help it. I have written a couple posts about this and then delete them and decide not to post them because I never know how to word it correctly. Or how to explain how it is for me because its so random and comes when it feels like it. Forever I have called this anxiety but after writing posts and then being so nervous to post them (not sure if I ever have the right words) I started reading more about stress vs. anxiety. I know that sounds silly that I didn’t know the difference, and I know they are similar, but I really didn’t know the exact difference. I think a lot of women have some form of anxiety in one way or another even if its only every so often. I have moments of anxiety but mostly I am just an over-stresser. There are so many stresses on women to be so many different things at once and its just not possible. And on top of that there are endless to do lists. For me personally, my to do lists often feel so long that it paralyzes me and stresses me out to the point where I feel like I can’t do any of it. Then I stress that our home is a mess and I didn’t get as much done as I had planned and I don’t meet the expectations I had for myself that day. This usually happens when I have forgotten about little things or decide to not finish to do lists days in a row and stuff just builds. I want to have homemade meals for my family, plan crafts for the kids, have the home clean, take the kids on adventures, run our two businesses, get ready, go to the gym, be a good wife, help friends out, call family, and all the in between. And I wish I could zip around with 10 arms and 10 brains and do it all. But on any given day I get to pick a handful of those things and remain a sane person. First to go is obviously homemade meals because I suck at cooking. And besides having the home clean and getting ready/gym, all are really important to me to get done every day. Most days we go through our days or weeks and do all of them to some degree.. wait does waiting til the mac n cheese on the ground dries so its easier to sweep up count as cleaning your house for the day? if so then we do it all to some degree. (okay I only did that once, stop judging 😉 ) And throughout those weeks I am doing just fine. Then all of the sudden I am like holy shizzzzzz.. did we remember to do this? And remembering that one thing reminds me of 100000 other things that we need to do.
I am not even going to proof read this because I probably won’t post it if I do soo excuse all of the errors. English majors, I know you are out there.
I am a pretty chill person but I think that is my problem – I just go at a slow pace and then realize that my to do lists were created for a very fast paced person!!!! Luckily my husband is reallly really patient with me and lets me vent and get all the crazy brained and frantic talking about how stressed I am – out of my system. Then he sits down with me and we come up with a plan. What I think we need to do is be better at scheduling things ahead of time.. even small things like remembering to make this call or send that email – set a time so we know it is getting done that day. What works for you guys?!
**Just want to add that I wanted to touch on this because I know most moms feel this way from time to time. I am not throwing myself a pity party and both David and I show gratitude for all we are blessed with daily. I am by no means saying I am always stressed – 95% of the time I manage my days and we get everything done. But there are those occasional days where you feel like a chicken running around with its head cut off. Not because “my life is so hard” but because that is just life. It happens regardless of your lifestyle. And I think everyone is entitled to those days. While we all have different lifestyles and not all of us understand the other’s, we all have stressful days and then the next day we just buck up and get back to it! I have appreciated all of your guys helpful tips of how you manage stress! Thank you for all of your tips! I am turning comments off for this post just because people can take this for what it is worth! If you don’t get stressed and think this is dramatic then you can leave those comments to yourself — I would rather be stressed than be the person taking time out of my day to put someone down on the internet 😉 to each their own!
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